Parents and professionals around the world share how Triple P can change families – for the better. Read what is being said about Triple P.
Summer, Sonoma County, U.S.A.
This is my first time being a parent and you feel like you're supposed to know everything (and) know how to do it all. But I just needed help really. (My son, Ricardo) was in his twos, about to turn three. There was a lot of struggle between him and I. It was always a hassle to get him to listen to me when we went places, or having to pick up his toys, having him sit down and eat dinner with us...
He was hitting me, he was hitting little girls in his class... I was worried that this was going to be a part of his personality, being so aggressive, and it scared me. I don't want my son to grow up to be someone who hits, you know?
I was kind of reluctant to take the class. (Once I started doing Triple P there were changes) immediately. It's about giving the child positive feedback...
Looking back for the last couple of months, I really think the hitting was just him not knowing how to get our attention... Now we actually have house rules – that's one of the (strategies) of Triple P. House rule number three is use gentle hands and so we enforce these rules. Now, when he starts to get a little rough, we're like: "Let's use our gentle hands. Let's use gentle hands." And it's in a positive light, so he doesn't feel like he's in trouble or ashamed. He's just reminded...
Janine, Kinark, Canada
The difference in our home is unbelievable. We have a three-and-a-half-year-old son. He stays with his grandma through the day while we work. Before coming to Triple P my son cried and cried each day because he did not want to come back home with us at the end of the day. He wanted to stay with Grandma. It broke my heart…When we started coming [to Triple P] we were at opposite ends of the parenting spectrum. Now we are almost united in the middle: my husband is less dictatorial, I am less lenient. Our child is less confused and frustrated.
Thomas, Glasgow, Scotland
My wife and I gained an incredible amount of practical information given in a friendly non-invasive environment. The advice was presented in an easy-to-understand format and supported well by video. Many of the changes suggested were really changes in our parenting rather than forcing something unreasonable upon the children.
We have been pleasantly surprised by how well our children behave both in our company and with babysitters. Although they’re far from being angels we now have the tools to control potentially explosive situations and I think that helps for a more relaxing and predictable home life. And happy children.
Duong, Brisbane, Australia
My wife and I have two children, a boy 9, and a girl, 5. In Vietnamese culture we just follow our parents but times change and (because we are) living in a new country we need to adapt and learn new techniques.
In the course you have the chance to talk and share with other parents. I strongly recommend and encourage parents, both moms and dads, to do it. It respected my culture.
Isaura, Curacao, Netherlands Antilles
I hope that more parents can get this support, so that they can be better mothers for their children. At the start I wondered if this course had come too late in my life. And now I have the answer to that: absolutely not! It’s never too late to learn how you can be a better person and a better mother and to recognize mistakes and make things right again. From the bottom of my heart, thank you! I’m convinced that I’m a different person now and a different mother, compared to what I was eight weeks ago.
Sandra, Bradford, England
My son is 11 and has learning difficulties and I’m a single parent. We were always at loggerheads... I liked the small group because I used to think I had the only child like that. When I saw other parents who are worse off, I knew that, at the end of the day, I wasn’t the only one out there with problems. Triple P has given me a lot more confidence. Before, I wasn’t able to talk to anybody about the problems. My confidence was going down. This helped to deal with that.
Since I’ve learnt to talk to my son in an appropriate way his behavior has improved at school too. It used to be that three days a week he’d be sent home from school…There’s been the odd little blip, but it’s just much calmer…I wish we could have done Triple P (when he was) in primary school. It could have prevented a lot of problems.
Cathy, Gold Coast, Australia
(Cathy’s six- year-old son has autism and was hitting, scratching and having meltdowns during shopping trips.)
[Stepping Stones] Triple P showed us ways to control the behavior and taught us that getting into a routine would make our lives easier and better. It all sounded so simple and the best part was that once we put into practice what we were taught at each session, it did actually work! Before Triple P we devoted every waking minute to Robert… I thought the only meaningful thing I would do with my life would be looking after Robert. Triple P taught me that I could still contribute to the community and they showed me how important it was that I make time for myself and still have time for Robert.
I wish I could show you what Robert is like today and how much he has changed from when we began the Triple P program. If you saw us out today, you wouldn’t think he was the same child. As for me, well I can now go to work without worrying about whether or not I am doing the right thing. I just hope that all families who have a child with a disability have the opportunity [to do Stepping Stones] as our family is living proof that it can make a huge difference to their lives.
Noel, Yorkshire, England
I’m a single dad, my son Jack is 11. Jack was getting into trouble at home and at school. My social worker came around with the Triple P video. When it started I was very aggressive. I thought they (social workers) were against me. You know, you’re worried they were trying to take the kids off you.
But now I see they want to keep parents and kids together. I did 16 sessions (of Group and Pathways Triple P) and Jack got better and better. It worked wonders. Me and Jack used to have loads and loads of anger. [Now]…the relationship is 200-300-400 percent better! We’ll still find something to argue about – but we’ll get over it. And I can sit down and have a conversation and not blow my top! We have become friends. It’s a fantastic experience I’ve had. There’s light at the end of the tunnel.
Joanna, Herefordshire, U.K.
Liam (13) was quite violent around the house. He would trash things and break things and I was at my wits’ end with him. All my attention seemed to be on Liam all the time and I had my other children to take into account as well. [I thought] the only option was to tell him he had to go and live with his dad or go away and live in a home or something. Triple P taught me that I had to grow a backbone, basically, and stand up for my rights as the mother… with no boundaries a child is out of control… Liam has changed for the better. He is a more considerate, selfless person. He’s helpful. He’s better with his brother. He’s better with his sister. We’ve got a new addition to the family, which is a dog, and he’s absolutely wonderful with the dog; willing to take it for walks. So he is an all-round nice person.
Some names have been changed to protect privacy.
John C. Duby, M.D., Director, Division of Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics, Akron Children’s Hospital, Ohio, U.S.A.
TRIPLE P IS THE ONLY RESEARCH-BASED PARENTING PROGRAM THAT PROVIDES THE FLEXIBILITY TO ADAPT TO THE NEEDS OF FAMILIES AND TO A VARIETY OF SERVICE SETTINGS. IT IS HIGHLY APPEALING TO ME AS A PEDIATRICIAN BECAUSE IT PROVIDES A SET OF TOOLS THAT ALLOW ME TO ADDRESS COMMON CONCERNS OF PARENTS EFFICIENTLY AND EFFECTIVELY.
Professor Patrick McGrath, School of Psychology, Psychiatry and Biomedical Engineering, Dalhousie University, Canada
The program is a revolution by which ordinary families will have access to the best that the past 30 years of research on families can offer. The materials are outstanding, the program design is excellent and the science is superb. The program is the best in the world. I recommend Triple P without reservation.
World standard of best practice
Professor Kurt Hahlweg, Institut für Psychologie Technische Universität Braunschweig, Germany
My colleagues and I regard Triple P as the world standard of best practice in the family intervention area.
The best in the world
Professor Stephen Scott, CBE, Institute of Psychiatry, Kings College, University of London, United Kingdom
Triple P is a great program. To my mind, it is the best in the world at addressing the needs of the whole community. The different components are carefully tailored to the needs of a range of parents. The content is based on best scientific practice, and is accessible and fun. Above all, it has been proven in numerous controlled trials to be highly effective.
Sensible, proven techniques
Professor Fiona Stanley Distinguished Professorial Fellow in the School of Paediatrics and Child Health at the University of Western Australia; Patron Telethon Institute for Child Health Research; 2003 Australian of the Year
Triple P offers straight forward, sensible techniques that have proven to be very effective.
Helps parents deal with everyday and difficult issues
Professor Howard Markman, Professor of Psychology, University of Denver, Colorado, U.S.A.
The Every Parent video series should be in the hands of every parent. They will find it user friendly and it will make a difference in how their kids develop and grow. This is a scientifically-based program that blends high educational value with a very entertaining presentation of the skills and ideas that have been found to help parents deal with the everyday and difficult issues that all of us parents encounter.